It’s the un-fun craft

Tonight I’m making a guest book for a memorial we’re attending on the weekend. Remember our buddy, Tommy, who was very sick in 2008? Well, last month, he passed away in his sleep. Mike and I and a few others helped organize an “un-memorial” for him. Well, everyone else did most of the organizing. I’m made lots of snide comments on my emails and got out with typing up the format, making the guest book, and I think I’m going to have to say a few words. EEP. Let’s not think about that right now. I’m not much of a eugoogoolizer.

Tommy specifically stated he did not want a funeral or memorial of any kind. We decided to ignore his last request and used the loop-hole term “un-memorial”. I guess that means I’m making an un-memorial guest book.Tommy had LOTS of friends, and before he got so sick, he was quite the mover and a shaker. He also helped many people during his career, so lots of people do want to gather and say a few words.

Sadly, I didn’t take any photos of Tommy. But as I look through my blog, I did mention him a few times over the years and he left comments on my blog, too. I think what I’ll do is print out the posts and his comments and include them in the guest book – for the memory section.

Also think I’m not going to use the Shrinky Dink plastic name tag on the book. I have a few days to make something that’s a little less bent. But I’m going to stick with the photo I took at Niagara Falls of the lone seagull. I like the Ferris Wheel in the background.

I think Tommy would secretly love our gathering for him. But he’d be sure to deny it completely.


  1. Leah says:

    Ah, good for you, Carol. We all want to be remembered. People remember the very best of a person at their funeral, memorial, un-memorial, whatever. I do believe Tommy will like the un-memorial. He may find out nice things about himself, and that would be a Good Thing.

    Knitters say they knit lace so they will be remembered beyond the grave. I think it is the brave and the good who leave ephemeral things, like encouraged and empowered people behind them. Our society does not seem to value and promote encouragement, enthusiasm, and laughter enough.

  2. Lysa says:

    Carol, what a touching post and I think it’s a wonderful way to celebrate your friends life. I also think it’s really important for the people left behind to come together as a way to start healing over their loss. I think we need ceremonies even if they are un-ceremonious.

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